Ep 38 - Building a Goal-Oriented Community: Featuring Kelsey Smith of Momma Has Goals

 

Are you a busy mom struggling to balance your personal goals with your family and career responsibilities? If so, you're not alone. Many women find it challenging to pursue their dreams while also managing the demands of motherhood. But there is hope! Our latest episode of the Tidy Revival podcast features Kelsey Smith, the founder of Momma Has Goals, a community platform designed specifically to empower busy moms to achieve their goals. Kelsey is a mom of two, an entrepreneur, and a passionate advocate for helping other moms thrive. In this interview, she shares her own journey to building a successful business while also being a present and engaged mom. Kelsey offers practical tips and advice for balancing your time, setting priorities, and staying organized, all while pursuing your passions and ambitions. Whether you're a busy mom or simply seeking inspiration and advice, you won't want to miss this episode of the Tidy Revival podcast with Kelsey Smith.

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Hey friend, I am really excited for you to hear this episode. I am talking to Kelsey Smith. She's the founder of the Momma Has Goals podcast and Community. They have an amazing app that I'm gonna be joining as a resource that gives you all sorts of free resources and folks that can help you along the way in reaching your goals.

Everything from overcoming self-doubt to breathing techniques for your children to communication and growth techniques. They have everything under the sun. Again, this is a free app that you can download and it'll help you take small actions to reach your goals. So, without further ado, I'm gonna jump on into my conversation with Kelsey and here we go.

Carly: Today I am chatting with Kelsey Smith from the Momma Has Goals Podcast and Community, and I am really excited. We just jumped off of a recording that I did on her podcast and now we're chatting on mine so you can get all the goodness about her community and a ton of tips.

And we're just going to jump on in. Kelsey, thank you so much for being here. Can you please tell me who you are and what you do in the world?

Kelsey: Yeah. Thank you so much for having me, Carly, and for coming on my podcast. It was such a great conversation. My journey really started. I woke up in the emergency room after delivery complications a whole year later with my first son, and I found myself really questioning what story I would have left behind and wasn't really anything bad, but I realized that I didn't feel like the story that would be told about me to my son because he wouldn't remember me.

He was only a year old. It really spoke to my heart and my values and what I wanted to leave behind in the world. And I didn't know what that was. So I got really busy figuring it out and as we chatted about it on my episode. The first step I took was decluttering my mind and my place and really getting clear on how I wanted to show up in that way.

Then I found all these really cool resources just like you, that helped me in my decluttering journey and whatever else to help me become the version of Me that I wanted to be alongside motherhood. So that evolved into me creating a platform for other women to be able to search their topics and their categories of how they want to show up for the highest level of themselves alongside however they resonate with the term family.

And so Momma has goals as an online community phone app and platform where we help you become the best version of yourself alongside your other goals.

Carly: Kelsey, I want to thank you for sharing your story because I know that it's amazing that you took such a really tough journey and made the community that you did with it. And I just want to just say that A, I'm so glad that you're here and that you're okay, and B, thank you so much for creating what you have.

That's amazing.

Kelsey: Thank you. I appreciate that, but also it's because of people like you helping people through things that that community can exist, right? And so I think for anyone listening, what I'd love for you to take from that is if there's something that you've overcome or a solution that you've found, Share it like, especially in this day and age, it doesn't have to be you creating an app and a platform.

If you just found a new face wash you like, share it with someone. If you found a new way to declutter or organize, or you learned something, you know, parenting is a huge part of my life. So if you learned something about being a better parent or showing up as a better friend or spouse or whatever, share it with someone because.

We are so into the world of the internet that we forget to just have a real conversation with humans and help them along life. None of us come out born and like, you know what? I know how to crush life. It's a journey that no one knows. We're all just trying to figure it out and do our best. So just help the people in your circle by sharing what you're experiencing and learning and don't feel like you have to do it all alone.

Carly: Yes, a hundred percent. And I, it's one of the reasons that we're really vocal around here on two things. Number one, everything, every win is a win, is what we always say. Because every baby step matters. And two that's why I'm so vocal about being like, dude, I have been there because I did not, I'm not a naturally organized person.

All of this is learned and letting folks know that they are not alone is so important. Okay, so we know that decluttering can happen in so many more ways than your physical stuff. Can you share some of the ways that you help women declutter their schedule in their mind?

Declutter your schedule and mind

Kelsey: Yeah. So like I said, I went on that decluttering journey first, and it really came with like, who do I want to be and what type of life do I want to live?

And that sounds so simple, but like actually, when was the first time or when was the last time you stopped and said, okay, this is who I want to be and what I want my life to look like? What I noticed that I had to declutter with my schedule was I was saying yes to way too many things in my calendar and my schedule.

And they were people I loved, people I enjoyed spending time with, but what I noticed is every weekend there was something, and I wasn't giving myself a lot of space to think about what I wanted our life to even look like. So I had to start learning how to declutter my schedule. And so it kind of, you hear the phrase sometimes where if it's not a hell yes, it's a hell no.

. I don't fully operate that way, but I think we take parts of it, right? To be able to say, okay, when someone invites you to that barbecue, Is your friendship going to fall apart if you don't go? Would it be better for you not to go to that barbecue or should you go to that barbecue? And really sitting with how should I be spending my time?

How should I be spending my energy? And the other thing is, if you have a free weekend, don't always fill it. Like if you have something going on, you don't have to just go, I'm going to fill that. So when you declutter your schedule, it allows you to declutter your mind, because you have some of that empty space.

Get really clear on what type of life you want to live in this season. It doesn't have to be your end all be all, but if you're like, okay, I'm the type of person that prioritizes my health, what does that look like for you? And are you leaving time for it? Is that not super important to you? It's something that I've grown through and I do recommend prioritizing your health because that's how you live.

But if that's not super important to you right now, then say, okay, it's really important to me that I see a movie often. Okay. How are you creating time for that? It's really important for me to spend time with my friends. I live in Napa, so you need to enjoy the wine culture. Whatever it is that lights you up, I really don't care.

But allowing yourself to get really specific with, okay, this is important to me. I'm making time for it, and if something isn't super important to who I want to be, how can I have a little bit less of that and still honor that relationship?

Carly: A hundred percent. To your point, something that came up for me while you were talking is thinking about since 2020. I think we all went on a journey since 2020 about who we are and what we want from our life. And I think a big takeaway for many of us, myself included, is to Have more focus on my mental health. I have felt so happy when people in my circles, you know, say we have plans and it's on the weekend, or whatever it is.

As it gets closer, they say, you know what, I know we had plans and I'm sorry to break them, but I am just feeling really stressed out and I think I need to take a step back and I think I need to just have some self-care time and just be in silence in my bathtub. And yeah, I have never been upset at a friend who expressed their own needs about their self-care, and I have always been welcomed by my friend group.

Like, and people have said, Hey, you know, you need to do what you gotta do. You have to take care of your mental health first. So if you say those boundaries to other people, you'll find that they are more supportive than maybe you imagine that they are. But yeah,  going back to what I want from my life?

What at the core is the most important? I think it is just amazing. And I think that it's difficult for people to take that time, but when you do, it is worth it.

Kelsey: Yeah, and as you said, you might have to go first in your friend group, but more than likely everyone's feeling something similar. It might be their version of it, but if you're the first person in your friend group to vocalize like, Hey, you know I have a boundary around that in one way or the other.

You know, I have kids and we were the first out of all of our friends to have kids, and so a lot of that looked like, Hey, you guys can come hang out at our house, but like, we can't go out because we have to have our kids. Or now, like when I hang out with friends, I'm like, we can hang out, but we're going to have to walk because one, I have a health goal I'm working on right now, so we're only allowed to hang out if we're moving our bodies, and two because I need to be able to put my kids on a stroller to have an adult conversation straight up. Then I can be able to have a conversation, move my body and hang out with my friends, and they've all loved it.

They're like, you know what? I'd rather go on a walk too than just sit on your couch and allow ourselves to be the first to vocalize it because you might have to be the person to say it out loud, but most people are going to say thank you, and they're going to be really excited that you put that boundary up.

Carly: Yeah, absolutely. And then you're just giving your friends the permission slip to vocalize when they need things too. Win-win. Exactly. Love. So I know goal setting is a big part of what we are working on this year. So how do you guys approach goal setting in your community?

Momma has goals

Kelsey: Yeah. So for me, Momma has goals. The phrase is really just allowing yourself to evolve as a human being and whatever that looks like for you. So I believe we should always have goals, but I want to break this idea that goals are associated with career financial success. Only that our goals may be setting bigger boundaries with our friends.

And if you end 2023 and you're like, Hey, I have better boundaries this year, like. That's a huge improvement. It doesn't have to look the same way as a traditional goal. So I, I'm not going to give you a smart goal framework or anything like that. Really for me, goal setting means if you were to improve any part of your life this year, what would that look like and what are some steps that you can take to check in with yourself regularly to do that?

And for me, I have buckets of my life, and that's how I establish all of my goals. And my three buckets are personally, professionally, and family. And your buckets could be something different, but for me, I look at, okay, a year from now, who do I want to be in my personal bucket? Who do I want to be in my professional bucket?

And who do I want to be in my family bucket and what habits are going to help me create the life I want in each of those? So if I'm always working and never spending time with my family, I might crush that professional bucket, but I'm not going to crush those other two buckets. So to me, they're always tied together and I have to have one win in each bucket a day, ideally, and those all come to a bigger vision.

So if I sit down and play with my son for 15 minutes, Then that's a win in the family bucket. Now, at the end of the year, if I'm like, oh, that one time I played 15 minutes with my son, I'm not going to feel like I crushed it that year. But each of those little things add up. If I say, Hey, my husband and I spent more time having better conversations or something, we're focusing on a lot this year as a goal because we want to spend more time together and be more creative with how we do that.

So that's like the bigger goal, right? When we talk about setting a goal. Now how we break that down is we've gotten really creative, like. Instead of just going out to dinner and getting drinks, which has been typical in the past, we're like, Hey, let's go for a picnic. Let's go for a drive. Let's spend time doing this differently so that we're hitting that goal in different aspects. Professionally, you can have your to-do list or your checklist.

Maybe it's up-leveling in your career or your business, but like how are you actually measuring that success at the end of the year? And for me, it's less, I made X number of dollars, but at the end of the year, how are you proud of yourself for showing up? And it's less of the result and more of the intention and the effort put in.

So if there were a frame, if there was a framework, my framework would be to pick three buckets of your life and with each bucket, pick the intention and the effort you can put in, not the result that you're hoping to get. And that's how I approach goal setting.

Carly: I love it. I love it. And I love something about your community as well that you have actionable, well, you have resources that are very specific to what people are looking to improve on in their life, and Folks that'll help them get there. And every time that you have that, you're like introducing somebody on your platform, you're always setting them up for success with immediate action items that they can take. And I think that is so cool because it's that next step. It's not just the information, but it's, and here's how you can get to your goal.

How did you come up with that?

Kelsey: My life experience, like what I needed. So like I said, when I went through that, I call it my self-discovery journey, when I was like, okay, what do I want my life to look like and how do I stop what I'm doing now to be where I want to be in 10, 20 years, whatever that was.

I was like, okay, I can go so far on my own, but then I need help. I don't believe that we should know how to organize perfectly, how to take action on our goals, and how to be the best employee, the best mom, and the best wife. You aren't just born knowing all of this. So how do you learn to become the best version of yourself?

There's this stigma around asking for help. What I noticed is people didn't want to just go down the street to Aunt Susan's bingo partner and be like, Hey, do you know a good therapist? Like, I need help. So while the internet is amazing in so many ways, it can be really overwhelming and there's so much is getting pushed at us every day with your notifications, your news alerts, whatever, turn a lot of those off.

I highly recommend it. There are still things that are going to be coming at you. And so I wanted to create a platform that you could come in and have twofold. One, I know based on what groups you're in, what season of life you're in, your home dynamic, and whatnot, and what type of content you may want to see what's going to benefit you.

So if you're an empty nester mom, or your kids are school-age, you probably don't want to see that person asking about potty training. You're like, I just don't care. I don't want to talk about that. So we're, you're not going to see that. If you're not a parent, then you may be like, well, most of our community is bombs.

If you're not sure you're an aspiring mom, or you just have different focuses right now, like you actually don't even want to talk that much about your kids, but it is a layer of it, then you're going to live in like the travel group, or you're going to live in the bookworm group. You're going to be on the entrepreneur business career group, talking about home organization.

You might not be wanting to talk about your kids because that's another part that you're living. We are multifaceted humans, and so I wanted to have permission to be all of me. And I wanted to be able to love on my family, and that was really important to like my goals and aspects, but I knew I needed the people to help me get there.

So that way, instead of searching how to organize my house, I could go in, go to the section of home organization and kind of binge these top people and be like, you know what? I really like Carly. Now that I'm ready to take this next step, I want to work with Carly. Because she was the person that I felt most connected to.

So it's kind of like if you were to go find a therapist, but for all these different areas of your life. So you're finding an expert, a coach, someone to help you move forward. Because not everyone knows, not everyone's an expert in these areas. You have to go find them and they can help you.

Carly: I love that.

I love that. And your community is, there's just a ton of resources for folks to check out in a lot of different ways that they can. You know, move their goals up to the next level. Amazing, amazing resources, and a great price point.

Kelsey: Yeah, so the platform itself is free, right? So you as a mom can go to your app store to download The Momma Has Goals phone app or you can go to MommaHasGoals.com and check it out. And it is free to be in there and get almost everything for free. We have daily journal prompts, daily check-ins, groups, communities, and all these resources where Carly also is, and you can really allow yourself to find that foundational support so that you know where you want to up level.

Because one thing I don't believe in is you can't get off of this podcast and be like, oh, you know what? I want to reorganize that room. I want to start reading 20 minutes a day. I want to go on a health journey. I'm also going to be the best parent in the world. I'm going to really rekindle the flame with my husband.

And you know what? I also want to launch a business, and I'm going to start doing all of that next week. Like you, that's not setting yourself up for success. So allow yourself to focus on one category at a time and allow yourself to hit a version of success. In that category, and then what's next?

It might be the next level of success in that same category, or it might be hopping over to a different category and really allowing yourself to be like, okay, I got my kitchen to a place that feels good organization-wise, and now my next focus is actually on my skincare, and now I'm going to focus on that next, like, whatever is next for you.

Carly: I love it so much. Kelsey, as we wrap up, I want to thank you so much for being here today and sharing with us and having these amazing resources for our community. How can folks stay in touch with you and get to know you and your community better?

Kelsey: Yeah, so you can find everything under Momma Has Goals.

We are on Instagram primarily, but you can also find us on YouTube. You can find us on the podcast Momma Has Goals, send me a message, connect and download the app and get in there and check it out. Any way that we can support you, that's truly what we're here for. It's making a difference in, I call it reimagining motherhood and allowing yourself to look at life a little bit differently.

Carly: Awesome. We will have all of the links in the show notes, so you can just click on over there, making it super easy. And thank you again for being here, Kelsey.

Kelsey: Thank you for having me.

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